I never believed or liked that statement because it meant the only way was to be 'nice'. And at the end of the day what if the people around are idiots? How can they be a better judge than yourself?
Being nice to people is tough. It means lot of time spent convincing others that you are nice. Why waste this little time on earth convincing others when there are more exciting things to do?
"You don't need to be nice to others. Just need to be fair" said the chairman in my previous company in one of his speeches. Phew. Now, this seemed a lot easier.
Only now, the emphasis is on being fair. Which turns out to be really hard especially when there is a conflict of interest. In fact, it is harder than being nice.
How do you know the right thing to do with the right reasons?
"I will give you this talisman. When you are in doubt, or when the self becomes too much with you, apply the following test. Recall the face of the poorest and the weakest man whom you may have seen, and ask yourself if the step you contemplate is going to be of any use to him. Will he gain anything by it? Will it restore him to a control over his own life and destiny? In other words, will it lead to swaraj for the hungry and spiritually starving millions? Then you will find your doubts and yourself melting away" - Gandhi
That answers everything.
